I’ve been meaning to write about this since it happened. Just haven’t had time until now.
Since graduating and working full-time, I haven’t had much time [or want] for relationships. Tried a couple times, didn’t work. I’ve also always been curious about anonymous sex. What better place to look than CL!
It’s been a few months, I’ve posted and replied to a couple of ads. Almost met up with some folks [chickening out a the last minute].
I haven’t been with a cis-gendered guy in 10 years. Will they freak out even if they know that I’m trans? What if they say female-type things in regards to my body? What if they are just a creep?
Beginning of January I met up with a guy. Super cute, respectful. Nothing happened besides some body contact. Whatever. For the first time, it was okay. Got over my nerves.
Skip forward to this month, and again I put an ad up. Like many time before it gets flagged and removed within a day. I guess this happens depending on certain wording you use in your ad. Thankfully tho, I get a few replies before it’s deleted.
Some are creeps that can’t form full sentences. Well they may not be creepy, but I can’t stand complete non-use of grammar and punctuation. At least TRY! Then I stumble upon a nicely worded reply. Won’t get into details of course. Let’s just say a few years younger than me, taller, chubby. Seems to know what he’s talking about.
We end up meeting up last Thursday night. I pick him up from my way home from work. Before I do, he texts me to say that he is incredibly nervous and excited. Cute.
To shorten this up. We don’t end up doing anything for the first couple of hours because of nerves. I was also worried, that he would turn out to be annoying or something, and I’d have to tell him to leave before we even got started. I have to say I was pleasantly surprised. Not only was he not annoying, he was intelligent, and kind of sweet.
When things did happen, he made sure to ask for consent before doing something else. He did not once screw up on language [I had told him previously what words I use for my body]. And yeah, it was kind of awesome. :)
I was worried that I would feel inadequate, that they other person would get weirded out. And that didn’t happen at all. It feels good to have a good/great experience like that when you hear of some many bad ones.
Oh, and yes we plan on meeting up again soon.