• Mar
    14 2011
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CL hookup

I’ve been meaning to write about this since it happened. Just haven’t had time until now.

Since graduating and working full-time, I haven’t had much time [or want] for relationships. Tried a couple times, didn’t work. I’ve also always been curious about anonymous sex. What better place to look than CL! 

It’s been a few months, I’ve posted and replied to a couple of ads. Almost met up with some folks [chickening out a the last minute]. 

I haven’t been with a cis-gendered guy in 10 years. Will they freak out even if they know that I’m trans? What if they say female-type things in regards to my body? What if they are just a creep?

Beginning of January I met up with a guy. Super cute, respectful. Nothing happened besides some body contact. Whatever. For the first time, it was okay. Got over my nerves. 

Skip forward to this month, and again I put an ad up. Like many time before it gets flagged and removed within a day. I guess this happens depending on certain wording you use in your ad. Thankfully tho, I get a few replies before it’s deleted.

Some are creeps that can’t form full sentences. Well they may not be creepy, but I can’t stand complete non-use of grammar and punctuation. At least TRY! Then I stumble upon a nicely worded reply. Won’t get into details of course. Let’s just say a few years younger than me, taller, chubby. Seems to know what he’s talking about. 

We end up meeting up last Thursday night. I pick him up from my way home from work. Before I do, he texts me to say that he is incredibly nervous and excited. Cute. 

To shorten this up. We don’t end up doing anything for the first couple of hours because of nerves. I was also worried, that he would turn out to be annoying or something, and I’d have to tell him to leave before we even got started. I have to say I was pleasantly surprised. Not only was he not annoying, he was intelligent, and kind of sweet. 

When things did happen, he made sure to ask for consent before doing something else. He did not once screw up on language [I had told him previously what words I use for my body]. And yeah, it was kind of awesome. :)

I was worried that I would feel inadequate, that they other person would get weirded  out. And that didn’t happen at all. It feels good to have a good/great experience like that when you hear of some many bad ones. 

Oh, and yes we plan on meeting up again soon. 

  • Mar
    11 2011
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Just Jasper: A real man is: someone who self-identifies as male.

fuckyeahfeminists:

Just Jasper: A real man is: someone who self-identifies as male.

totheexperts:

justjasper:

The realness of a man does not depend on:

  • Their genitals
  • Their birth-assigned sex
  • Their level of masculinity
  • Their level of femininity
  • Their opinions
  • Their behaviours
  • Their name
  • Their bodyshape
  • Their sexuality
  • Their interests
  • Their hobbies
  • Their clothing
  • Their reproductive capability

Ditto on women. I’d use women and men to differentiate binary genders from sexes, since male is generally used to signify innate biological characteristics (such as those of other animals) rather than gender.

  • Mar
    10 2011
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Feminism and Baby Animals: Victim Blaming and Rape Myths in the Media

feminismandbabyanimals:

By my friend Jenny Lange, check out more at The SheSheet.

Finally, it is almost April! That means that it is the start of Sexual Assault Awareness month. I graduate at the end of this quarter and thought it was important to use my voice as a tool to raise awareness for a month that is so…

fybethditto: Beth Ditto Speaks Out About Solo EP, Lady Gaga and Planned Parenthood - Spinner

fybethditto:

Beth Ditto Speaks Out About Solo EP, Lady Gaga and Planned Parenthood - Spinner

theworldiseverlasting: ivegotplaces:   hey you guys, something kind of intense.  my friend marizela is missing.  Date Missing: March 5, 2011, 12:00-12:30 P.M. Last Seen: Rainier Beach area, heading to UW Seattle campus to meet friends for lunch or study in the UW libraries Possible Routes: Sound Link Light Rail stations, downtown/Chinatown areas, UW Seattle campus, U-district Description – Asian female, 5’5” tall, 110 lbs, skinny build, asymmetrical bob with short bangs and brown/red highlights hairstyle, tattoo on left inner arm with the words ‘lahat ay magiging maayos’, last seen wearing denim jeans, light brown suede laced boots, possibly wearing green eye contacts, possibly carrying a plaid backpack with a Macbook Pro laptop, taking medication for depression Please contact if you have any information regarding this person: Edgar Perez (father): 609 – 646 – 0905 Jasmin Perez (mother): 609 – 742 – 2360 Melinda Mendoza (aunt/guardian): 206 – 760 – 1822 Joy Mendoza (cousin): 609 – 742 – 2336 if you could, please just reblog this to get the message out.  we all want her to be safe.  thanks guys. it takes about two seconds to reblog this. that’s all. please just hti the reblog button so we can find her.

theworldiseverlasting:

ivegotplaces:

 

hey you guys, something kind of intense.  my friend marizela is missing. 

Date Missing: March 5, 2011, 12:00-12:30 P.M.

Last Seen: Rainier Beach area, heading to UW Seattle campus to meet friends for lunch or study in the UW libraries

Possible Routes: Sound Link Light Rail stations, downtown/Chinatown areas, UW Seattle campus, U-district

Description – Asian female, 5’5” tall, 110 lbs, skinny build, asymmetrical bob with short bangs and brown/red highlights hairstyle, tattoo on left inner arm with the words ‘lahat ay magiging maayos’, last seen wearing denim jeans, light brown suede laced boots, possibly wearing green eye contacts, possibly carrying a plaid backpack with a Macbook Pro laptop, taking medication for depression

Please contact if you have any information regarding this person:

Edgar Perez (father): 609 – 646 – 0905

Jasmin Perez (mother): 609 – 742 – 2360

Melinda Mendoza (aunt/guardian): 206 – 760 – 1822

Joy Mendoza (cousin): 609 – 742 – 2336

if you could, please just reblog this to get the message out.  we all want her to be safe.  thanks guys.

it takes about two seconds to reblog this. that’s all. please just hti the reblog button so we can find her.

So making this! I think it would be super good with sweet potatoes as well.  smilingfork: Smoky Carrot Hummus Difficulty: ★★☆☆☆ (Easy) Ingredients: 1 pound carrots, rinsed 3/4 cup cooked garbanzo beans, rinsed and drained 3-4 tablespoons olive oil 1 lemon, juiced (about 3-4 tablespoons) 1 tbs sesame seeds 2 cloves garlic, minced 2 tsp paprika 1/2 t cumin 1/4 tsp chipotle chile powder 1/4 tsp sea salt Preparations Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Chop carrots into large chunks. Toss in 2 teaspoons olive oil and lightly salt. Roast for about 30 minutes, until carrots are fork-tender. Set aside until cool enough to work with. Meanwhile, you can get everything else ready. Using either a blender or food processor, add the garbanzo beans, 2 tablespoons olive oil, lemon juice, sesame seeds, garlic, all spices and salt. Once the carrots have cooled, add them to the blender or food processor. Pulse or blend until combined. Have the olive oil on hand if you need to add more because the consistency is too thick. Garnish with paprika or fresh parsley. Serve with crackers, bread or tortilla chips. Spread on a sandwich.

So making this! I think it would be super good with sweet potatoes as well. 

smilingfork:

Smoky Carrot Hummus

Difficulty: ★★☆☆☆ (Easy)

Ingredients:

  • 1 pound carrots, rinsed
  • 3/4 cup cooked garbanzo beans, rinsed and drained
  • 3-4 tablespoons olive oil
  • 1 lemon, juiced (about 3-4 tablespoons)
  • 1 tbs sesame seeds
  • 2 cloves garlic, minced
  • 2 tsp paprika
  • 1/2 t cumin
  • 1/4 tsp chipotle chile powder
  • 1/4 tsp sea salt

Preparations

  1. Preheat oven to 400 degrees.
  2. Chop carrots into large chunks. Toss in 2 teaspoons olive oil and lightly salt. Roast for about 30 minutes, until carrots are fork-tender. Set aside until cool enough to work with.
  3. Meanwhile, you can get everything else ready. Using either a blender or food processor, add the garbanzo beans, 2 tablespoons olive oil, lemon juice, sesame seeds, garlic, all spices and salt.
  4. Once the carrots have cooled, add them to the blender or food processor. Pulse or blend until combined. Have the olive oil on hand if you need to add more because the consistency is too thick.
  5. Garnish with paprika or fresh parsley. Serve with crackers, bread or tortilla chips. Spread on a sandwich.

Love this. sexisnottheenemy: thefutureisqueer: More Deviant Art love. “Queer Punks No. 1” by freesamuel. 

Love this.

sexisnottheenemy:

thefutureisqueer: More Deviant Art love. “Queer Punks No. 1” by freesamuel. 

So awesome!! vanillaxlight: via img.corcholat.com

So awesome!!

vanillaxlight:

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